As a wedding photographer, I know my job is important. I could argue that I’m the most important vendor at the event, in fact.
After all, I’m the one who will be documenting the day for posterity.
I’m the one who will be with the bride all day long.
I’m the one taking the family portrait that will be treasured by the bride’s mother forever.
There to Serve
Those are the things that make my job important. But they don’t make me more important than anyone else at the wedding — especially the bride and groom.
A wedding photographer is a vendor hired for an event, period. I am a servant, just like the waiter serving the guests their food. I am there to serve the wedding couple.
I am not there to make sure the bride accepts all my creative suggestions.
I am not there to persuade them to do a “first look” session before the ceremony.
I am not there to coerce them into posing for sunset photos if they decide — even at the last minute — that they would rather just enjoy the reception instead.
Art Comes Second
I am there to offer professional advice and to work up a shot list for the day. But I must be OK with the fact that the schedule can change at any time, and I have to be flexible with my plans.
It is their day, not mine.
Yes, I am an artist. But I can never become so focused on my desire to create art that I lose sight of why I was hired in the first place.